Stephenson Family Ties The Barn Burnt Down
And Now I See The Moon
One must train the habit of Faith.  The first step is to
recognize the fact that your moods change.  The next
is to make sure that, if you have once accepted
Christianity, then some of its main doctrines shall be
deliberately held before your mind for some time 
every day.  That is why daily prayers and religious 
readings and church goings are necessary parts of
Christian life.  We have to be continually reminded
of what we believe.  Neither this belief nor any other 
will automatically remain alive in the mind.  It must
be fed.  And as a matter of fact, if you examined a 
hundred people who had lost their faith in 
Christianity, I wonder how many of them would turn
out to have been reasoned out of it by honest argument?
Do   not most people simply drift away?
from: Virtue and Vice
by: C.S. Lewis

If one were to seek the praises of men...I suggest you wear these boots!!  Perfect strangers would and did stop in their tracks and compliment my fun, new boots.  (That just doesnt happen to frumpy me..in Logan Utah.)  I do NOT seek after the praises of men. Not much anyway.  But I DO enjoy a great pair of shoes/boots!!
Thank you Margot and Natalie for your help and guidance in obtaining such praiseworthy objects.

I do ask myself...often of late...what is it that I should be 'seeking after'?
The answer of course is- The Kingdom of God. But this is too grand a goal...to seemingly unattainable.  So Im looking to be more realistic.
I am seeking for meekness, for patience. I seek for holier Sabbaths, and meaningful prayer. Most especially Im seeking for joy and peace in my day.
This week we read in Matthew 6:
Take no thought for your life, what  ye shall ear tor what ye shall drink, nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on.  Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? 
 Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they? 
 Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature? 
 And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:
 And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.  Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith?
 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? 
 (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.
 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. 
 Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.
Its so easy for me these days to get sucked into the worries  of the day...to become overwhelmed with concern about the future. More  often than I care to admit, I am filled with bitterness and hopelessness. I have learned that I am weak and that my foundation was mostly a sandy one. I have also learned that My Builder is the rock.
But  I do not want to be thought of as a quitter. I dont want to give up. I intend to find my way back to the spiritual being that I once was.
I've been looking in many other places for enlightenment, besides the scriptures. I have found great instruction in learning about meditation and the practices of Buddhism.  (Mormon friends..dont freak...there is truth everywhere!)
Here's a dumbed down version of my new journey-
If while washing dishes, we think only of the cup of tea that awaits us, thus hurrying to get the dishes out of the way as if they were a nuisance, then we are not "washing the dishes to wash the dishes." What's more, we are not alive during the time we are washing the dishes. In fact we are completely incapable of realizing the miracle of life while standing at the sink.  If we cant wash the dishes, the chances are we wont be able to drink our tea either.  While drinking the cup of tea, we will only be thinking of the other things, barely aware of the cup in our hands.  Thus we  are sucked away into the future,  - and we are incapable of actually living one minute of life. 
from: The Miracle of Mindfulness
by: Thich Nhat Hanh

All in all Im seeking, no, longing for peace. Peace with our circumstances. If I can find peace, I can have joy. If I can learn to live in the present...I can feel joy again. I know these things...but living them is a whole different matter.
The very first telephonic conversation, between Bell
and Watson, standing in separate rooms, contained
these words; "come here, I want to see you." In the
uncountable human phone conversations since then,
that concept has never been far from our lips. "Come
here. I want to see you." Impatient lovers, long distance
friends.  Grandparents talking to grandchildren. The
telephone voice is but a seduction, a bread crumb 
to an appetite.  "Come here.  I want to see you."
from: The First Phone Call From Heaven
by: Mitch Albom

Presidents Day was spent down in Salt Lake partying with some of the grands.   It was Beckhams birthday ...a few days before...and we wanted to add our two cents to the celebration.
Having Benjamin join us was a small bit of spontaneous genius.  Ripping him from the clutches of his mothers arms...was a small miracle.

All in all it was a wonderful day...a break to remember.  These faces never fail to melt my frozen Logan heart....every single time we see them.  What a blessing each one of them are to our lives.
This is a glimpse of the day:
Mommy told Ben to take a nap while driving down to Salt Lake.   Ben closed his eyes before we even left their parking lot and pretended to be sleeping, until he was in fact sleeping. Such obedience...a rare thing indeed.
Next we met at THE HABIT for yummy burgers and those delicious tempura green beans...a new favorite of mine.  Ben had his 'mommy-made' PB and honey sandwich, apple slices, and red pepper wedges, which completely satisfied him.  (again...who is this child!!!??)
Then we walked across the parking lot to Scheels.  There's always call to see the gigantic fish tank..full of Nemos, and the fun zone to play in.  Fun was had by all!!
Then we said our good-byes...oh how we love these kiddos...and its hard to say good-bye.  Even knowing that I'll see them again..sometime soon.
Next were some business errands to run...which included a cool pet store of course.  Our little man Ben was great company.
The only 'fail' of the day...not being able to meet up with Brian and Mericar as planned.  Darn work, Darn reality.   Disappointing.
But all I have to do to cheer myself up is to look at this pics...and then Im feeling grateful once again.
The drive home seemed quicker than normal...for Ben was talkative...and half-way thru he requested some MJ.  MJ???? What does that mean??  Could it possibly be Michael Jackson!!?? Indeed it was so...my little man is a M J fan!! How can I not adore that!!!???
Patience is the calm acceptance
that things can happen in a different
 order than the one you have in mind.
-David G. Allen


Our tiny home didnt come with a koi pond ...(someday I'll have the pond of my dreams.)
So there's a Plan B.  My Builder and I are now the proud owners of a 40 gallon fish tank..which is the perfect  thing for our tiny home.  We've decked it out in minimalist style and we are very happy with the results. We went to the local PetSmart and picked out a few new, wet friends:  Gerald, and Francis...to begin with. Welcome to our tiny  home beauties!!
Bringing these  creatures into our home  caused me to feel remorse and  even guilt  for having banished Alfredo the Dove to the Mill since moving to the T.H.  I had felt that there was no room in our inn for a dove and his bulky cage.  But alas...he was missed...so he has now joined us here in our small, green metal house .  Our tiny home is indeed tiny...so Im not sure yet where he'll stay...for every nook and cranny is precious...but he has been restored to his proper place.  He's a beautiful bird and I am soothed by his cooing, so he's a welcomed addition to our home.  His beauty and consolatory ways were wasted at the Mill. Guinea Pigs and hamsters cant possibly appreciate his many attributes. His talents were wasted there! Now there is no more guilt in knowing that he wasnt seeing sunshine or in being denied the freedom of hanging out on the back of the couch watching life happening around him.  How boring it must have been...living at the Mill..watching My Builder and David weigh and measure rodent food for all the furry critters there.  He and I are now going to try and patiently wait for warmer weather...so that we both can spend more time hanging out outside again. Patient we are going to have to be.
Unless you are good looking,
extremely funny or otherwise
incredibly charming, plan on
bringing something to the party.
from: Put a Cherry on It
by: Ben Behunin

This is dear Beckham...and he IS charming, funny and he's THREE today!! I want to party with him until I can no longer party!!

This little handsome man is always happy to see me!!  He loves having books read to him...and most endearing of all...he likes to sing the songs from the movie FROZEN.  I wish all could hear his raspy, deep voice, singing words we cant quite understand but are still in perfect harmony with the song LET IT GO!! Priceless!!!
He's always smiling...and he loves his little baby sister.
I think he may be perfection...with those big brown eyes and a tender disposition. I'd be happy have him as my shadow, anytime!!
And right now he LOVES Mickey Mouse!! Not Iron man or Spiderman or all other things Marvel and testosterone riddled...just sweet, adorable Mickey Mouse for sweet adorable Beckham

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY LOVE!!!!
But there's not way to avoid regret.  Dont let
anyone tell you different.  Regret is just life's
aftertaste.  No matter what you choose, you're
gonna wonder, if you shoulda done things
different.  I didnt necessarily choose wrong. I
just chose. And I lived with my choice, aftertaste and all.
from: A Different Blue
by: Amy Harmon

Tues brought snow-blindness.  We had that pea soup fog I mentioned earlier..for about a week,  Monday evening we had snow...it was snowing hard when I went to bed...Tuesday we woke to a winter wonderland.  That afternoon the clouds parts and the sun shone and I was dazzled and blinded as I fulfilled my recess duty.  We were blinded by the whiteness, the brilliance,  of the pure driven snow.
Im here to also report that kids are oblivious.  All they saw were the slushy puddles to soak their bootless feet in and snow to kick at one another or to use to construct snowmen.  I wish I had thought earlier to take out my camera and take more pics of the variety of snowmen built that afternoon. I was too concerned about the wet, cold feet and the soggy clothes on these kids...all things that they would surely regret  having to  endure throughout the rest of the day.  I for one think there cant be a worse discomfort than wearing wet shoes and clothes all day long. I personally avoid those conditions like the plague!!  Bless their sweet, smiling faces...AND their immune systems!!




A Weekend of Gifts

You loved Ferris Wheels more than roller
coasters because life shouldnt be lived at
full speed, but in anticipation and appreciation.
from: Making Faces
by: Amy Harom


I know, I know...Christmas is over.
But I love the weekends that still feel a little like Christmas...as this last one most certainly did!!
Gift  #1 arrived in the mail ...from far off  Blessed St George!!
There's nothing better than homemade granola ...blended together by the loving hands of 'grandma' Stephenson.  Thank you dear Ethel..my dearest mother-in-law and grandmother to my kids and great grandma to my grands!! Thank you!!  (I think I was lucky enough to snag one bowl of the divine concoction before it disappeared.  Rationing next year....hiding it under the bed!!!)

Gift#2-
Company arrived!! We LOVE company on the weekends...company any time!!

Gift #3-
Soup!! But in truth..the word soup is not adequate enough to describe our Sunday meal. Im sure there's a better word...probably in Italian...for the bowls that were placed before us last night.   Soup is just to simple a term. For when you think soup you probably think of Campbells or even Top-Ramen,  But this 'soup was food fit for the gods...starting with Brazilian gods...for it was a Brazilian dish, tweeked by Mericar.  You SHOULD be JEALOUS!!!


Gift #4-
Fog is a gift.  All weekend it was foggy...pea soup foggy. Fog is so much better than snow and freezing temps.  Every mild day in January is a gift.  Any day that  isnt like lasts years January is a gift.  Thank you God!

Gift #5
We had game night...and day!! First bowling...then the kiddies went to bed and we played Phase 10! It was fun!! Why dont we do it more often??!!  TV always sucks us in.




Life is good!!
Learning sleeps and snores in libraries,
but wisdom is everywhere, wide awake, on tip toe.
-Josh Billings


Dearest Clark and Jenna
I know it didnt take a lot of arm twisting to get you out to beautiful Utah for Christmas break...but it did seem a bit tedious for you once you got here, maybe...due to flu and an overwhelming amount of family wishing to spend time with you both.(But cafe rio was worth it alone right!!??)
O how very grateful we all are that you came!! My guess is that  it'll go down as one of the more memorable holidays for most us us. How often will we get the whole family together again?  Hopefully many, many, many, times..but one never knows when the Universe is in charge do we?
If I were in charge  we gladly  eat, visit, watch movies and visit some more..for it should happen as often as possible!! When the Universe is in charge we learn to grab every opportunity to be together...for time seems to whizzz by and we always seem too busy for our own good...except maybe for you two at times..as you make your way thru medical school.
Every moment with you was a treasure. The cold temps were bracing, the flu sucked, and the constant questioning about your schooling may have been a drag...but all in all we hope the week was as good for you as it was for the rest of us.
I loved visiting, eating out, playing games, watching movies, and just hanging out doing make-up. I loved that we were together for New Years Eve...thanks always to Hotel Ehlert and friends!!
Family Family Family!!! Its ones greatest joy...so we thank you for the  sharing of yourselves! Thank you for the memories! Hopefully your batteries have been recharged, and your burnout and fatigue have been extinguished.  And that  you will once again enjoy the rigors of school.
You are a remarkable couple.   Your strengths and your weaknesses will all  work for your betterment if you let them alchemize into something rare and precious. I see glimmers of greatness  and beauty already. Be patient with one another. Find your path...your happiness...and live in the present....for that is our own greatest gift.
Nobody knows where your journey  will lead you....but as it has been made blatantly apparent to you again over this break, we all want to watch, learn and encourage you along your way....whereever it may take you.
Happy New Years you two!
You are loved!!


Success isnt a result of spontaneous
combustion. You must set yourself on fire.
- Arnold H. Glasgow

Tonight was date night with my daughter. We try to go out together once a week.  Girl time is important. Tonight I drove her to Ogden to the train station. But first I took her to her favorite fast food joint...IN&OUT Burgers. She said it was the best burger she'd had in YEARS!! How about that!!?? She even regressed to her 'childhood' and dipped her fries in her chocolate shake!!  Simple pleasures are the best!!
Speaking of simple pleasures...driving her car...an Acura...with 2 new CD's of Michael Jacksons greatest hits cranked up till I could feel him...dancing in my seat...sipping a Pepsi...(a rare treat now) watching the most brilliant new full moon rise over the mountains...and sending my silly, teenage crush love to Michael in heaven...were all beautiful things for me tonight!! I LOVE road trips! I love MJ!! And I love Pepsi!! And of course I love my dear daughter!  It was a great couple of hours!!
Im learning  to find supreme joy in the simple things again!! For this I am very grateful.


Bereavement is the unwelcome current that forced you
 to an unintended harbor.  But, here, perhaps, the 
 vessel lies that will carry you onward
 to the place where you were always meant to go.
from: Caleb's Crossing
by: Geraldine Brooks

Those that know me..have known quite plainly that My Builder and I have been on a tempestuous journey these last 3-4 years.  I havent been quite silent about our woes.
Nothing has gone as we envisioned. This road is unfamiliar...and sometimes difficult....and long, long, long--requiring much patience.
Having said this about myself I realize as the same time that most people I know can say the exact same things.  I am not unique.  (no kidding)
All us seem to be saying these same things:

"nothing is for sure."

"Who pulled the rug out from under us!!!??"

"Why us!!??"

I add to the list of questions, this poignant inquiry:
Why does the most faithful, devout, valiant man I know and love, My Builder, have to struggle so??!!

....and on and on and on I can go...and have gone.

There are still no answers coming my way. Heaven is silent for me.  But Im assuming that its mostly my fault that it seems this way, for I have NOT remained valiant, faithful, humble or devout.  I have struggled mightily with hope, faith and patience and understanding.

But I feel a glimmer of light on the horizon...for no apparent reason. There is no explanation or change in me, except for a softening of my own heart.  The reasons for this warming of my heart may be mystical/spiritual or worldly...for both  are connected...for everything is spiritual. After 3 years of what has felt at times like outer darkness...I feel a shift...in me.

Here are a few things I may attribute this change of heart to:

#1 a better job.  I do miss my friends at The Grill, but I do NOT miss the work. Every day I appreciate my PE job. What a great gig it is!!  And I choose to believe that it was the 'inspiration' of a great lady to tell me to apply.  How glorious it is to fall in love with 340 kids!! How can that not do anything but soften this heart of mine?

#2 winter began mercifully mild this year.   I know it will get worse...it already has...but I appreciated every warm, sunny December day.

And lastly, but probably most importantly, we have our own little home. I call it fondly- our tiny home.
I will probably always feel just a tinge of shame (for pride yet yields its ugly head) when I have to say out loud that I  live in a trailer park, in a puke green mobile home, 8th down on the right.  But as soon as I step indoors, its home, its cozy and nice.

So dont tell anyone...but Im truly enjoying our tiny home!!

It turns out that the simple life is good for me.
I enjoying lessening our footprint and letting go of stuff!!
I enjoying even more having no cause to accumulate stuff either!! For there is no room!!!
Tiny home is easy to keep clean.
We have amazing views here..of both mountain ranges. 360derees of beauty!
The financial freedom is liberating and a gift. We have no worries on that account. Its payed for!!
Rain on the tiny homes' metal roof is a lovely thing.
The tiny home has someone else to take care of the yard...mowing and watering are no longer our responsibility.

I havent a clue, not one morsel of a clue what the future holds for us...but...Tiny home is a blessing..and Im grateful for it right now.




Gracious God
It is so hard to wait. 
To wait for new things to happen in my life.
To wait for Thee to answer my prayers.
To waitt for the open doors than may lead me into a new way of being.
During this time of waiting, it seems that all I can think of is having what it is Im waiting for.
At times I am weary of of asking and waiting, and wonder if Thou hears my prayers.
I do know that Thou wants what is best for me, and that Thy time is not my time, but Lord, it is so hard to wait.  Deepen my trust please, especially during the times when my heart longs for what can come by only Thy will.  
Give me a calm assurance that Thy will for me is grander than anything I could imagine. 
Please still my mind and heart in Thy love so that I am mindful of the grace  Thou art draping around me every day, every moment.
Amen


Winter is Arrived - Sergey Andreyevich Tutunov 1960
I realize I've forgotten how very simple
a little straight-up love can be:
"I am the leg of you."
from: Driving Mr Albert
by: Michael Paterniti





 Christmas morning...bright and early!!  But so grateful we could share it with the little boys and Lucie...with some family!! 



 You will notice that there is one less beautiful face missing from all these pictures...and that would be Mericar!! She was the photographer...and we're grateful...but sad that we didnt make sure she was in some of the pics!!


Hardware Ranch was a lovely little outing too!  We bundled up...expecting the worst...and instead we had sunshine, no crowds and lots of elk to see.  The 'sleigh' ride was really a wagon ride...but our trusty guide...named Cheeseburger...was a wealth of information about the elk.  William and Ben were warm...but the little girl from another family on our 'sleigh' wept the whole time...because her feet were so cold she couldnt feel them or wiggle them as her daddy was always suggesting her to do...poor thing.
Oh how I love this family of mine...

Welcome Jaycee Sharp!!!

When we ask for God's blessing, we're not
asking for more of what we could get  for
ourselves.  We're crying out for the wonder-
ful unlimited goodness that only God has
the power to know about or  give to us.
from: The Prayer of Jabez
by: Bruce Wilkenson



 Joshua, Jordan and Jaycee Sharp
Blessing day
December 21,2014


While eating dinner together the other night, My Builder, my Rock, my wise one, summed up our new life in our tiny home perfectly. He said, "I think we're comfortable in our cozy tiny house, but we're not yet satisfied."
 I agree with this statement...because I am indeed grateful for what we have right now...our tiny home in our tiny mobile home park. It is a blessing, for now.  (more on our tiny home to follow)  BUT...on the other hand we must remain convinced that there are still better things to come for us in the future.  We live and breathe hope.
(How's this for a long-winded preamble to last Sunday's blessed event?)
One of the very best things about living in Utah happened again last Sunday. My Builder and I traveled south for an easy hour and 45 min drive to Highland to take part in the blessing of the newest baby Sharp!!  Chubby, cherubic  Jaycee was given a name and a blessing by her newly devoted and darling daddy!! It was a momentous occasion for dear Joshua. First time Mormon daddies dream of the day they will someday bless their children.  It a beautiful tradition we have...blessing and welcoming babies into the world and into families by pronouncing blessings that they wish for their children upon their sweet, innocent heads.  Asking for God's watchful care, protection, and guidance on divine little spirits that are entrusted to us to care for and nurture  while here on earth is a wonderful thing. What a joyous occasion...having dozens and dozens of family and friends surrounding you and you small infant to supplicate God for His richest blessings on a newborn!! It is a beautiful thing indeed!!! We were so blessed to be apart of it!!
Merry Christmas Jaycee!!
Welcome to this world and to the family!!!
 Bro Joe...the newest Grandpa in the family!!

An Indian legend holds that celestial hunters
turn the leaves yellow by cooking meat over
an open fire and splattering fat all over the 
trees.  
Western science offers a less colorful explanation:
the leaves simply stop producing chlorophyll, the
chemical that makes them look green(and nourishes
the tree).  Yellow pigment that has been over 
shadowed all summer by the chlorophyll now 
emerges from hiding and becomes dominant.
In other words, the leaves' warm-weather makeup
wears off to reveal the natural surface
underneath; yellow is the leaves true color. Try 
using that explanation next time someone remarks
on your graying hair.
from: Buck Creek
tripod.com




THis photo was taken before the excruciating back pain of last week and before the hellish snow and wind of this week.  It was taken when autumn was fun.  Girls were adorning my hair with the largest leaves they could find from off the school yard.   As I said it was when autumn was warm and inviting.
Then the Universe pulled a fast one on me.  Last week I was completely incapacitated with back pain...pain like I've never experienced before.  Thank heavens its now subsiding...in time for the arctic  weather to rear its ugly,cold head.  In time for me to now stand out on this same school yard for an hour at recess...grumbling quietly under my breath and shivering like those autumn leaves were before falling to the ground. Now Im a planning a shopping spree to the nearest sporting goods store for real winter boots and under armor!!  Gym shoes wont cut it here in Logan Utah and nether will my beloved shorts....in the winter.  Its dang cold!!!
I do not believe that the inscrutable
universe turns on an axis of suffering;
surely the strange beauty of the world
must somewhere rest  in  pure joy!
from: The Artist Way
by: Louise Bogan



For some strange reason this picture of yummy butterscotch pudding made me cry this morning.
I've  realized that I am Not taking the time for the simple pleasures much any more.
Good and generous loving friends and family are my life line and I have been leaning heavily on them of late.
When was the last time I made butterscotch pudding for those I love and for myself?
Here I sit, wondering when my life is going to start again...
And its happening all around me.

When am I going to STOP seeing my glass half empty?
and go back to seeing my glass overflowing!!
What am I waiting for!!!??
A home?
For the perfect job??
For perfect weather?
Till I have a dog?

Nothing is ever lost in this adventure of all adventures.  The
lessons and discoveries of every single life, no matter how
large or small, difficult or easy, are added to the whole. Like
stones in the base of a pyramid, they permanently raise and 
forever support every manner of adventure that follows.  And 
so it is that the hearts of those that came first continue to
beat in all the subsequent generations forevermore.
from: Notes from the Universe
by: Mike Dooley


Ive been missing a golden opportunity to write!! Hand to forehead.....I should have been writing about my adventures at attempting to be a PE teacher at Ellis Elementary in Logan Utah!!  I've really blown it!
For some reason, with Friday being picture day at school, I became inspired.
I am surrounded by beautiful children every day now.  Each and every one of them are beautiful.  I've been at the school for a little over 2 months  and I am completely whipped. Whipped up in my heart and of course on many days, also whipped physically as well.
I teach K-5.
Sometimes I think Im nuts.
But then I  show-up and interact with the beautiful kids and Im ok. There are more beautiful dark skinned kiddos than we boring Caucasians.  I LOVE this!! Im learning so much.
So today Im thinking that every day should be picture day.  Most of the kiddos must have gotten up extra early yesterday so that their mothers could primp and shine them for school pics.  They were all so darling.



A game of HORSE...while waiting for their turn in front of the camera.

The kickball game in the afternoon. I know I should have
 gotten closer, but I couldnt resist the colors and the
 mountains and the single fluffy cloud. 

Every Friday I have the opportunity to take the 2nd graders, 
and 1st graders and then the kindergarteres for a walk 
around the block..to help get the wiggles out and some fresh
 air in those tender lungs!! Good times!!!

This week and this whole month Im attempting to teach jump rope.  Who knew jump roping could be 'taught"!!??  Previously I thought you picked up a piece of rope and tripped and stumbled and tried to jump it until you got it!! But oh no...there are books written on the subject!! There's a technique!!  And as you can well imagine ...teaching a 5th grader is a whole different experience than it is when teaching a kindergartner!!  Oh my yes!!

Every night I lay in bed and question my sanity. What is a Mimi (a grandma) dong teaching PE to kids under the age of 11...Kids full of energy and enthusiasm and riddled with quirks !!  Really!!?? Who am I kidding!!??  But when Im there--inside the ancient  walls of Ellis...(Ellis is the oldest, function school in all of Utah) I find happiness.  Happiness and frustrations, in the midst of frequent chaos.  Im sure you can imagine me pulling my hair out at those times...oh me of little patience. Can you picture me blowing on a whistle...a whistle I HATE for it really hurts my ears!!??   Can you picture me in any of these scenarios? I usually cant either!!